I asked another question on here a few weeks ago about my step children getting sick/being sick/pretending to be sick every time they come here. Well, they are five and seven and are with us every other week. For a month straight they would get diarrhea/or puke at night time at least one day they were with us. Well 2 weeks ago when they were with us, they did not get sick at all. I showed them extra attention the last time they were here and love bc I thought maybe they were gettin stressed out that a new baby is on the way, being shuffled between two houses, or something is bothering them at school. They wont talk about their feelings even though my husband I have tried. I have kept this extra attention up again this week that they have been here too. I know that some people may take offensive to this but I think that they have psychological problems or emotional problems.

Well, last night my stepdaughter told me she felt sick, but I suspected that it was cuz she didnt want to eat the supper that my husband cooked. She said she had a headache so we gave her tylenol and said to lay down. She came back out a half hour later and we offered her something else to eat and of course she did eat it bc I knew that she was hungry and I didnt think she was really sick at all. Thats just what I think though.

Well, this morning my step son said he had a headache and didnt want to sing at the Easter sunday service, but he did want to do the easter egg hunt so I said if your well enough to do that your well enough to sing. I would do the same thing if he was my natural child too.

Well, also both of the kids always have issues with food it seems like. They took like two bites of their food at easter church breakfast and I didnt force them to eat any more cuz I’m afraid they will puke on purpose or something. I think they use this to their advantage (sure some of you will be offensive about that, but i think its true).

Well after my step son got his candy he appeared to be "well" again. Well at supper time he did eat most of his food but afterwards he whined that he had a headache like his sister did the day before. So we gave him tylenol sent him to bed with a trash can by his bed cuz last time he only said he had a headache and puked in the middle of the night too. I said that he needed to try to make it to the toilet but the trash can is there in case he cant.

I just am really puzzled and upset about the behavior because I think that they are emotionally disturbed and need counseling which my husband and I are working on getting taken care of soon. Although, my husband just thinks kids are kids, but I think this is a more serious issue and that the kids dont like being shuffled back and forth all the time or something else is bothering them but I cant imagine what.

Also, these kids have been to the doctor by me because neither one of their parents would take them bc they refuse to believe there is a problem and that kids just get sick. The doctor says nothing is wrong with them physically but she thinks that they have psychological issues and need to be seen by a counselor. I have begged my husband to agree, which he has, but I know that he is reluctant. Can any one give me any pointers on how to deal with these kids since I am the one that is around them a lot bc hubby works way more than I do? Please dont be rude. I am tryin to get them the help that they need. I also have a one year old son with my husband and it is very hard juggling my time, but I try my best. I want to have the best environment possible and stop these kids from their most likely manipulative behaviors/ pyschological illnesses that could be passed on to my natural son.

Also, I have cleaned and sanitized my house inside and out, so I know that the kids are not getting sick from a dirty household or enviroment. We live in a safe clean environment with large thanks due to me. My husband isnt the one that cleans up any of their diahrrea or puke. He makes me do that all the time…is that really fair or what? Who knows.

I have been married to their dad for almost 2 years. They have been in and out of our house many times. I do not know what they could be allergic to considering i havent changed cleaning products and vacuum and dust regulary. Doctor does not think household cleaners are an issue although they could possibly have other allergies I’m sure, but to who knows what. It’s not like they have been exposed to ne thing different. Their mother is a heavy smoker and drinker at her house…so maybe that could be some of the problem…who knows?!

I just want the problems and issues fixed. Please help and thanks :) .
i have tried to stay out of the custody agreement even though i dont agree with it, i do think that their father should get adequate time with them although i think it should be more like every other weekend.The custody says that each parent is to get them 26 weeks out of the year and my husband and their mother want to follow that to a "t" with the kids going back and forth every other week. I do not have much control over the issue. My husband does not want to pay child support (the court papers are signed by her saying that he doesnt have to pay child support according to the agreement, but it also says that a different visitation arrangement can be made if both parties agree) The mother has said that she would take them more, but my husband wont allow it cuz he thinks she will go to court for support. He also wants all the benefits of having his kids but not taking care of them much. He leaves that to me. You tell me whats fair…….
i always forget to mention that their mother and father were never married. And as far as adding any more kids to my marriage with their father, i highly doubt that will happen any time soon or if all. Granted thats our choice, but obviously yes his children have serious problems that need to be addressed now…and yes i am running myself thin with 2 younger children of my own. It’s not an easy task or situation.
YES I DO WORK THANK YOU.
they are with us every other week, not every other weekend!
i have had to force my husband to give them extra time and attention bc it seems sleep, tv, and computer are more important when he is home from work. it is not my fault that he doesnt give them the attention they need, i hope that a counselor can stress to him that he does need to give them more attention, but also not give them everything they want either. i think they just need a balance of attention from both their mom and dad, and maybe that would happen if their dad didnt put so much responsibility on me…who knows…………..

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